In this week’s podcast, Dick and Gwen sat down to talk about misogyny kink. We covered some of the roleplays we’ve used it in, as well as how to negotiate this type of play safely and ethically. We also talked about some of the discourse around whether or not this is a “valid” kink.
Misogyny Kink as Fiction
We start off by establishing that we are not into misogyny in real life whatsoever—we’re only interested in playing with it in a fictional setting. This is a newer kink for Dick that came about because of Gwen. A big thing that got it started is that Dick is technically Gwen’s boss, so they found it fun to roleplay sexual situiations during “work hours.”
Gwen explains that she’s into misogyny mainly because of the taboo elements involved in it. She’s also experienced it in her everyday life, and she frequently incorporates negative things that have happened to her in her life into kink. This helps her feel a sense of agency because she can reclaim control over misogynistic situations, and it feels powerful to be able to make misogyny hot instead of feeling oppressed by it.
Dick talks about how it’s interesting that he’s come around to being into this kink, because as a top, he typically approaches kink from a place of sadism rather than dominance. Since he usually is more of a sadist, he’s not well-versed in power play, which is something he’s navigating through exploring this kink. He likes (consensually) hurting people, no matter their gender, and his top-space usually has nothing to do with controlling people. Gwen has really brought out a new dominant persona that he’s able to tap into, which he hasn’t been interested in in the past.
Is Misogyny Kink Valid?
We bring up the discourse around whether or not misogyny is a “valid” kink, because we’ve seen discussions surrounding it on social media where a lot of people think that this kink is literally misogynistic, and don’t see it as fiction. Gwen finds it important to talk about how it’s okay to play with and/or fantasize this kink. It reminds her of how some people look down on submissive women in general and see it as anti-feminist, when in reality, having agency over your sex life and communicating what gives you pleasure is a positive thing, and helps you gain sexual freedom.
Dick doesn’t necessarily see misogyny as a kink for him personally, but he likes to use it as a tool within scenes and/or play. He relates this to kinks like race play and gender play, because even if you don’t hold these values in real life, it can be useful to use them as tools to feel humiliated, belittled, or however else you might wish to feel as a submissive.
We also cover how even if you don’t necessarily have a kink for misogyny, a lot of kinks imply misogyny or are based in it. For example, any scene where a woman is being beaten by a man, or any D/s relationship with a male dominant and female submissive, can be viewed as rooted in misogyny.
We also answer listener questions about misogyny in the media, how to explain that taboo kinks are based in fiction, whether or not sissification is rooted in misogyny, and more.
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