This week, Dick and Gwen sat down to talk about their love language—no, not the hippie-dippie kind—but the names and titles we use to turn each other on. From degrading and praising language, to pet names and honorifics, we talked about all of the dirty words that keep our engines purring.
Introduction to Kinky Pet Names
We wanted to discuss the topic of the language in kink that we use, because despite the wide variety of kinks and fetishes we cover, we haven’t taken much time to focus on the importance of pet names and honorifics.
We started integrating pet names into our dynamic when we first met after Gwen commissioned Dick to make a custom audio porn. When they were negotiating what would be included, Dick decided to integrate Gwen having to say nice things about herself in the fantasy. This made Dick realize that pet names made her uncomfortable, but in a way she likes. While Gwen enjoys being called pet names, she has a hard time accepting them, and a hard time using them for her partners. It’s emotionally heavy and intense, which is why she enjoys it.
We also talk about how our language has evolved, and how there are names Gwen started out hating that she now loves. For example, she hated the idea of being called a piglet at first, but now it’s our go-to pet name. We also had a hard time coming up with pet names/honorifics for each other when we first became partners, and we think it’s important to let them come naturally over time rather than forcing them.
Using Kinky Pet Names Virtually
When it comes to the difference between using sexy language virtually versus in real life, Gwen finds it easier to dirty talk over the phone, while Dick finds it easier to dirty talk in real life. Gwen finds that in general, she has less anxiety using pet names virtually, while Dick finds it to be more awkward. Gwen brings up the idea of co-writing erotica with your partner wherein you use specific language that only pertains to the ongoing written scenes.
Kinky Language and Switching
Being in a switch-switch relationship can occasionally make kinky pet names and honorifics difficult. We’re in a relatively fluid switchy relationship, so it’s not like we have days set out where one person is the dominant and the other is submissive. Because of this, it can be challenging to feel out the mood and be confident while using a title for each other. However, we work through this by using whatever names feel right at the time and doing our best to trust that the other person won’t feel weird about it.
We also answer listener questions about pet names from our past that we’ve hated, gender neutral pet names and honorifics, and names we use during toilet play. Our listeners also sent in responses about pet names and honorifics they use in their dynamics.
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