By Jack Rockett
(Note: the author is not a licensed medical professional. Warnings and recommendations are based on personal research and experience only.)
Should you try mouthsoaping in your next scene? Different strokes for different folks, of course – but for me, mouthsoaping is an activity that is vulnerable, methodical, and humiliating. It requires active participation from both parties, and is therefore quite intimate. It’s also realistic, old-fashioned, and targeted, making it a form of corporal punishment that meshes well with a variety of play styles and roles.
But where to begin? Before you jump into mouthsoaping, be aware of the dangers. Bottom line – mouthsoaping (using soap internally, in general) is an inherently dangerous activity – that’s why there’s warnings on the box. Follow your preferred guidelines for risky kink activities – I use RACK guidelines when I play with soap. Risks associated with mouthsoaping include allergic reactions, swallowing and upset stomach, bleeding, stinging and peeling of the lips and mouth, nausea and vomiting, and blocked airways. Be prepared for any and all of these scenarios.
Most of this is common sense – do an allergy test with the soap before diving in. If nausea or stomach upset occurs, stop soaping. If bleeding occurs, stop and rinse. If your bottom can’t breathe (and if you’re not incorporating breathplay intentionally), clear the airway. Don’t swallow, and if you do, don’t panic. A little soap swallowed is usually harmless (especially if you use a plain white soap), but if you’re concerned, or if vomiting or diarrhea occur, call poison control. Drinking a few glasses of milk or water can help offset the discomfort as well.
So, you’ve done your research, and you’re ready to get started. What do you do? First, gather your supplies:
- Soap – I prefer bar soap; it’s safer than liquid. Use a white bar soap to start – I recommend white Classic Dove. Ivory and Pink Dove are also good bets.
- Applicators – washcloths, sponges, toothbrushes, and any other fun things you can think to use to get the soap all around the mouth.
- Environment – conduct the scene in a location with running water for easy rinsing and cleanup. Make sure you have towels on hand, consider bringing a stool or chair for your sub to sit in, and punishing in front of a mirror adds to the humiliation!
- Extras – all the other fun goodies to add to the scene, like spanking implements, humiliating clothes, open-mouth gags, sex toys, or anything else that sounds like fun!
Once you’ve gathered everything (and negotiated with your scene partner), begin by bringing the sub to the punishment spot. Consider lecturing while you wet and lather the soap, or lather soap onto your applicator. When you’re ready, your sub should open their mouth (if they refuse, pinching their nose usually works). Soap their mouth – rub the bar or applicator everywhere you can reach. Make them stick their tongue out to make it easier to wash, and don’t forget to get under the tongue! Brush their teeth with the soap – this can grind bits of the bar into their teeth to extend and intensify the experience.
However you decide to do it, follow a general pattern. Lather the soap, soap the mouth, and repeat. One minute in, thirty seconds out to relather usually works pretty well. In general, a mouthsoaping should concentrate about 60% on the tongue, 25% on the teeth, and the remaining 15% on the rest of the mouth, like the inside of the cheeks. Don’t forget about the lips and the outside of the mouth too – a DIY bubble beard is a very embarrassing look. Be aware that to avoid swallowing, your sub will likely have to drool. Either protect your floors from mess with a towel, or make your sub clean up their mess afterwards.
The soap should make several trips into the mouth – anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes usually does the trick. When you’re ready to start wrapping up, a few minutes of corner time with a bar of soap in the mouth is a traditional final step. Soap can sting the mouth after a bit, and that sting can linger long after rinsing, so keep limits in mind – if you push too far, skin can peel off the lips and your bottom will feel it for several days after. It shouldn’t cause lasting damage, but be aware.
When the soap finally comes out of the mouth, the punishment continues until you let your bottom rinse. If you want to be mean, consider limiting the amount of water they have to rinse, or make them gargle the soapy water before spitting. Even after rinsing, the taste will linger for several hours. Allowing your sub to brush their teeth is merciful, but requiring them to eat a meal before they can brush is delightfully mean. Flavored drink and food can cut the taste, but once the sub brushes their teeth, the punishment truly ends. Avoid mouthwash, though. That shit burns.
As with any play, remember to offer aftercare to your sub when the scene is over. Milk tastes awful in a soapy mouth, but can cut back on the burning significantly. Lip balm (NOT the medicated kind) will soothe sore or raw lips. And, of course, emotional aftercare is just as important as physical aftercare. Check in with them afterwards to make sure they’re feeling okay.
I’ve written extensively about this – including listing out my tips to make a mouthsoaping more fun! – on my Fetlife page, Sugar_n_Spyce. Feel free to visit and ask questions – I’m happy to answer questions and offer advice.
Happy sudsing!
Listen to Jack talk more about their personal relationship with mouthsoaping and more in their episode 205- Rub A Dub Dub
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