The first time I ever listened to audio porn was as a teenager exploring my sexuality while living in a religious household. I learned in church that watching porn was a sin, but certainly there’s nothing wrong with listening to it… right?
Thankfully I’ve managed to work through most of my religious shame surrounding sexuality and these days I’m totally comfortable watching my porn, but my love of hearing someone describe in vivid detail all of the filthy things they want to do to me has stuck around. Sometimes the thought of looking at strangers’ holes and genitals just feels overwhelming, and it’s during these times that I return to the comfort of laying in bed with the lights off and my earbuds in, my only care in the world being the hot voice softly growling smut that feels like it was written just for me.
Audio porn plays an important role in my life—I have voice and ASMR fetishes, and one of my relationships even began with commissioning my partner to create erotic audio for me. As I’ve reflected on all of the ways audio porn has helped me, I wanted to share some of the ways I’ve found that erotic audio can improve your sex life.
1. Exploring kinks and fetishes without pressure
Have you ever found yourself to be interested in a kink or fetish, but you’re not totally sure if it’s right for you? I’ve found that audio porn is a great way to explore new interests in a safe, low-pressure way that still feels intimate and personal. While you won’t necessarily get a taste of the physical sensations involved in various kinks, audio is a fantastic medium for testing the waters of whether or not you’re into the psychological aspects of different forms of play. This is especially great for kinks that are heavily dependent on verbal communication, such as humiliation or praise, and can help you get a feel for the ways you enjoy being talked to and phrases you like to hear during dirty talk. Additionally, if you think you might be into something but you’re not ready to explore it with a partner, audio porn can help you gain some clarity on how to communicate your interests in the future (if that’s something you decide you want to do).
A woman pressing play on a phone listening to an erotic hypnosis audio
2. Simulating play without a partner present
In any relationship, there’s a good chance that not everyone’s kinks are going to align. Depending on what you’re looking for, you might not be able to find anyone in your area who’s willing to engage with certain kinks with you. Or maybe you like to fantasize about something in your head, but you’re not interested in playing with it in real life. While watching visual porn is a great option when you don’t have a willing partner or you’d rather engage in something on your own, I always turn to audio porn in these situations, because you get the sense of another person being in your ear helping you along without actually needing one.
3. Improving your topping and/or bottoming skills
While there’s a ton of play I would love to top for, I struggle to find the words that are central to many aspects of topping. Aside from just helping me get off, audio porn has helped me learn common phrases that people use while topping for various types of play. You can also get an unlimited amount of scene ideas from exploring the different scenarios that audio porn creators set up. If you struggle to come up with ideas as much as I do, you could keep a list of different phrases or scenes you like from audio porn and make them your own.
I also firmly believe that erotic audio can help you become a better bottom. While it might not teach you how to take pain or how to negotiate a scene, it can help you practice one of the most crucial aspects of bottoming—processing emotions. No matter what type of kinks you play with, as a bottom, you’re most likely going to need to be aware of and know how to process intense and potentially difficult emotions that arise. I’ve found that while playing with a partner, I can be so physically overwhelmed that it can be a real challenge to identify feelings that certain types of play bring up. Without the intensity of being in a room with a person, I’ve found it to be easier to analyze how certain types of play and language make me feel. This makes it simpler to communicate important feelings that kinks bring up to my partners, which in turn helps them have a better understanding of how to please me, what to avoid, and things I need to hear during aftercare.
4. Connecting with partners
When I’m struggling to communicate my desires to a partner, I find it useful to write out exactly what I want in the form of erotica. If I’m already writing it all out, I might as well read it into a microphone to make a sexy gift out of it in the process. This way, my partner has a record of exactly the kind of scene I’m into, plus they have homemade jerk off material!
As previously mentioned, one of my relationships began with me commissioning someone to make erotic audio. While I would not recommend commissioning a sex worker to make you porn with the expectation of kindling romance, collaborating on audio porn can serve as a great jumping off point for anyone you might be interested in dating or becoming play partners with. When I was starting my relationship with my partner, negotiating audio porn together was a great method of discovering each other’s likes, dislikes, limits, and preferred language. We were long-distance at the time, so once I received the file he made, it had the added bonus of feeling like we got to play together in-person. Even if you’re in a long-term relationship, creating erotic audio for a partner or having them make one for you can help discover new ways of playing that you might not have explored yet. If you don’t have the time and energy to create audio porn at the moment, you can even send a partner files that you already like to help them get a better sense of your desires.
A woman speaking into a microphone
5. Engaging in kinks and fetishes that can’t be done in real life
It breaks my heart that I’ll never be able to truly experience many of my fantasies, such as sex with tentacles, monsters, experiencing certain types of inebriation, and many more. Sure, visual porn for these interests exists, but sometimes watching an animated version or using a tentacle-shaped dildo just doesn’t scratch that itch. In my experience, audio porn is the closest you can feel to the real deal.
There’s plenty of fantastical audio files out there, and if I’m able to close my eyes and shut out the rest of the world, audio porn makes me feel like I’m truly living an experience in a similar way that enjoying a good fantasy novel does. Even outside of fantasy-based kinks, audio porn can help with harm reduction if you have kinks in which you’re not comfortable with the risks involved in real life.
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Are you into erotic audio? What are your favorite sites and creators? Do you think that some kinks translate better into audio form than others? I love to talk about all things sexy audio, so I’d love to know your thoughts!
This post was sponsored by Sofia Sins, a new audio porn platform by Sofia Gray. If you’re into sexy voices like me, or if you want to find out more, they offer a 3-day trial, and after that a subscription is only $4.99 a month. As always, all views and opinions are my own!
